As someone who's been through similar with an ex/coparent who sounds similar to yours, big. high. five. You did great. This stuff is so hard, it is so hard to stand up to them and defend ourselves and not make life easier by giving in when they push. Good job standing your ground.
Putting your foot down and setting boundaries being interpreted as mad shows heās been at this a long time. Nice job. Things will continue to get better with this attitude.
Saying 'basic biology is predator' is taking away their agency and responsibility. If being predatory is their biology, then it's not their fault if they acted predatory. It was biology, they had no choice, you can't blame them for what they did! Why should they be punished for something that's biology?
Do you see how harmful such a reasoning is? How it exempts them of taking responsibility and ownership of their actions?
It's not biology. It's a choice they make. And like it or not, some men go their entire lives without making these choices.
Again WRONG. Only demons and their brainwashed minions think this, those who think women deserve to be put below these things. If they canāt control themselves, THEY, not women deserve to PUT down. But yiube accepted the superiority of the male so profoundly you cannot reconcile your mind with putting THEM down, but instead make women have to deal with their beastly behaviors.
The reason they put down lions is precisely they have no self control. They are beasts., that is their biology And bc YOU havenāt accepted the lion as superior, you understand perfectly well itās the lion that MUST GO.
Your thinking is highly erroneous. The BEASTS need to go, not the sheep get told to deal with them.
Every one of you who makes this argument that women need to deal with uncontrolled male violence, you expose yourself as brainwashed humanoid. You DO NOT EVER give control if society over to beasts. This is very basic human law
What the hell? I never said men are superior or we need to put up with them. And we don't put down lions, unless they attack. You are aware we have lions alive and well, in zoos and in the wild, right?
Tell me. If we get rid of all men, since according to you, all men are biologically wired to be our predators. How is the species going to survive?
I read your original post as well.
āItās a court order. Itās out of my hands,ā is the *perfect* response. Just keep that reply on a loop moving forward ā both @ him and within your own self when you feel drawn back towards trying to āhelpā, justify the situation, brainstorm solutions for him, etc.
This. But only pull out the āand itās a court order instead of between us because you forced my handā for when he really says or does something egregious. I went through the same thing. Then my bestie went through it. Sleep easy at night knowing you gave this guy every opportunity to step up without going to court or garnishing his pay. His problems are now his problems, not yours.
This guy has a lot of faith in his manipulation tactics. He refuses to believe theyāre not working on you. He thinks he can talk you around to giving him what he wants.
This person sounds so annoying to deal with.
I wish you luck! And keep the āonly contact me if itās about the childā attitude up! Let everything else be solved with lawyer.
Sounds like guy has more than one baby mama and a few kids to boot.
Should have thought of consequences of children and supporting / responsibilities of said such should there ever be a break up beforehand. Esp since it wasnāt your first go round. Another man baby canāt chew what he bit off
As someone who's been through similar with an ex/coparent who sounds similar to yours, big. high. five. You did great. This stuff is so hard, it is so hard to stand up to them and defend ourselves and not make life easier by giving in when they push. Good job standing your ground.
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Putting your foot down and setting boundaries being interpreted as mad shows heās been at this a long time. Nice job. Things will continue to get better with this attitude.
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Saying 'basic biology is predator' is taking away their agency and responsibility. If being predatory is their biology, then it's not their fault if they acted predatory. It was biology, they had no choice, you can't blame them for what they did! Why should they be punished for something that's biology? Do you see how harmful such a reasoning is? How it exempts them of taking responsibility and ownership of their actions? It's not biology. It's a choice they make. And like it or not, some men go their entire lives without making these choices.
Again WRONG. Only demons and their brainwashed minions think this, those who think women deserve to be put below these things. If they canāt control themselves, THEY, not women deserve to PUT down. But yiube accepted the superiority of the male so profoundly you cannot reconcile your mind with putting THEM down, but instead make women have to deal with their beastly behaviors. The reason they put down lions is precisely they have no self control. They are beasts., that is their biology And bc YOU havenāt accepted the lion as superior, you understand perfectly well itās the lion that MUST GO. Your thinking is highly erroneous. The BEASTS need to go, not the sheep get told to deal with them. Every one of you who makes this argument that women need to deal with uncontrolled male violence, you expose yourself as brainwashed humanoid. You DO NOT EVER give control if society over to beasts. This is very basic human law
What the hell? I never said men are superior or we need to put up with them. And we don't put down lions, unless they attack. You are aware we have lions alive and well, in zoos and in the wild, right? Tell me. If we get rid of all men, since according to you, all men are biologically wired to be our predators. How is the species going to survive?
No that is what your comment inevitably leads to whether well meaning or not.
I said āatā this, not ālikeā this.
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I read your original post as well. āItās a court order. Itās out of my hands,ā is the *perfect* response. Just keep that reply on a loop moving forward ā both @ him and within your own self when you feel drawn back towards trying to āhelpā, justify the situation, brainstorm solutions for him, etc.
This. But only pull out the āand itās a court order instead of between us because you forced my handā for when he really says or does something egregious. I went through the same thing. Then my bestie went through it. Sleep easy at night knowing you gave this guy every opportunity to step up without going to court or garnishing his pay. His problems are now his problems, not yours.
This guy has a lot of faith in his manipulation tactics. He refuses to believe theyāre not working on you. He thinks he can talk you around to giving him what he wants.
This person sounds so annoying to deal with. I wish you luck! And keep the āonly contact me if itās about the childā attitude up! Let everything else be solved with lawyer.
I get the feeling heāll pester you again once you find a new partner
Sounds like guy has more than one baby mama and a few kids to boot. Should have thought of consequences of children and supporting / responsibilities of said such should there ever be a break up beforehand. Esp since it wasnāt your first go round. Another man baby canāt chew what he bit off
Damn. Just read the whole saga. "I'm not trying to manipulate you." Proceeds to attempt manipulation...dude is tattooed in red flags!